Thomas Oliver Bruce Morris (NH, 1996)

At College, Tom was Deputy Head of House and excelled at sports – rugby, hockey, golf and particularly cricket, playing on the 1st XI for two years.

The following is an abridged version of a tribute to Tom read at his funeral, written by his wife Jo Morris. 

In celebration of Tom Morris, a man whose spirit was as dynamic as his many roles: a devoted dad, loving husband, cherished son, loyal brother, and steadfast friend. His life was a lesson in his passions, and his passions helped create a unique and remarkable individual.

Tom's love for rugby was unparalleled, a true fanatic whose fervour for the game was infectious. His parents played a crucial role in nurturing his passion, ferrying him around to countless rugby and golf events during his younger years. He was a talented golfer, displaying a knack for the sport that many admired – and some were annoyed by, as he was so good without really trying. Eventually, he was winning junior competitions around the county. He moved to Cheltenham College, where his academic prowess did not improve, but his love for rugby and cricket was supercharged.

Tom's quick comebacks and dark humour were legendary, always ready with a witty remark that could lighten the heaviest of moods. His fondness for Blackadder was a testament to his appreciation for clever, satirical humour. One of his best friends Tim and he mostly communicated in Blackadder quotes, adding an extra layer of humour and camaraderie to their friendship.

Tom was always looking out for others, often the first to check in and offer a helping hand. He had a way of taking people under his wing, providing support and friendship to those who needed it most. Tom always championed the underdog, whether it was a friend or a rugby player. 

At Winchester, he learned to party and make many friends, completing an English degree but famously only reading one book. His nights out with his rugby mates, ‘exploring’ the many statues in Winchester, became the source of many stories. His other best friend, Nick, shared his passion for rugby to the point that our group WhatsApp is called ‘Rugby Obsessives and Widows.’

Tom’s journalistic career started with the local paper The Echo and then on to the Western Daily Press, followed by The Bristol Post. He also often reported on Gloucester games, sharing his insights and passion for the sport. Tom later joined the Ministry of Defence, a case of poacher turned gamekeeper. It is a testament to his character and ability to make friends that so many of his friends and colleagues are here today.

Travel was another of Tom's loves. He often had the grand idea of where to go but was quick to pass the buck when it came to organising the details. He was frequently heard asking, ‘Where are we going again?’ Rather than Rome or Venice, I was treated to Tallinn, Riga and Bratislava as he wanted to experience them before they became too touristy. 

At home, Tom found joy in the little moments, like playing Barbie with Maisie [his daughter] and dancing around to Taylor Swift. Tom was born to be a dad. There are reams of photos of Tom and Maisie taking selfies, pulling the most ridiculous faces. 

Tom was passionate about the future of rugby, always striving to make the sport better and safer for future generations. His dedication to this cause knew no boundaries (to my annoyance), but was a testament to his love for the game and his desire to ensure it could be enjoyed by many more to come. He was an active supporter of Progressive Rugby, an organisation committed to improving player welfare and safety in the sport.

Tom was a man of many talents, passions, annoying habits, and endearing quirks. His legacy is one of love, humour, and a spirit that embraced life with all its imperfections. He will be deeply missed, but his memory will forever inspire those who had the privilege of knowing him.

Click here to read an article published in The Times on 7 December, celebrating Tom's work with Progressive Rugby to help protect players from head injuries.

In lieu of flowers, donations are welcomed to a fundraiser in Tom's memory to fund a second 'cuddle bed' at St Peter's Hospice. Visit the gofundme page here for details and to donate.